â€œSo, can you constantly wear high heels?â€
â€œUm, often,â€ my pal responded. Demonstrably off-put by hearing this, I inquired my pal: â€œOK, therefore did he have trouble with you putting on heels? Had been he smaller than you? Ended up being he perhaps not a fan of the design?â€ She couldnâ€™t really provide me personally a straight response, but in my experience it sounded like a self-esteem problem or an unnecessary judgmentâ€”a red banner.
Maybe I became being hyper-vigilant, or even we connected it with an ex-boyfriend who flat-out told me personally: â€œI donâ€™t like once you wear those fringed shoes. Theyâ€™re unsightly for you.â€ (actually good.